Courtney Baker was shocked to hear that her child would have Down syndrome, but knew she would love her baby regardless. If anything, she was more shocked by the reaction and advice that her own doctor gave!
Courtney and her husband Matt went in for a 12-week ultrasound for their unborn daughter almost two years ago. During their visit, they discovered the news that, though the doctor’s office had told them that the Down syndrome screening that week before had been negative, their precious baby girl did indeed have Down syndrome.
The OB-GYN suggested going to see a specialist to “discuss options,” but for Courtney, there wasn’t a discussion to be had. "I told him our only option was to bring our baby girl into this world," she said to TODAY.
However, after trying to find another OB-GYN and then finding a maternal-fetal medicine specialist, Courtney was shocked by the doctor’s reaction. “He suggested we abort due to how low our quality of life would be, and [hers] as well." Seriously?!
Welp flash forward to today, and Courtney’s 15-month-old daughter, Emersyn (“Emmy”) is alive and thriving, and Courtney is in love! So much so, in fact, that she wrote an open letter to the unnamed specialist who recommended that she have an abortion because of Emmy’s Down syndrome. "I knew the doctor needed to know how wrong he was," Courtney said. "Once she was born, she just proved it. I think it took so long because we were in such baby bliss. This has been the happiest year of our lives, truly. I feel so at peace and so blessed."
The mother posted the letter on her Facebook page, with an beautiful picture of Emmy, and it has now gone viral! In the post, she admitted that she actually wasn’t angry or bitter at the doctor at all. “I'm sad you were so very wrong to say a baby with Down syndrome would decrease our quality of life. And I'm heartbroken you might have said that to a mommy even today. But I'm mostly sad you'll never have the privilege of knowing my daughter, Emersyn," she said.
Read Courtney’s heartfelt letter below!
Hopefully, this letter wakes up this specialist and any others who are prejudiced towards those with disabilities! Just because someone has a physical or mental condition, yes, there may be difficulties, but that doesn’t mean that he or she won’t have a great life filled with love. And it definitely doesn’t mean that those with disabilities should be automatically written off. Kudos to this mom for speaking out!